fbpx

Posts by Gaspar Anastasi

Two people talking

How to be a person of influence

“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” I believe that this saying is very true.

We become frustrated when the people who are important to us don’t listen to or receive instruction from us. For a parent, it can be our children; for a teacher, our students; for a businessperson, our employees or colleagues. The bottom line is that people won’t take our advice if they don’t feel genuinely loved or cared for by us.

To be our most effective, we must first earn the right to speak into a person’s life.

Think about it. How do you react when people correct you? You may walk away feeling belittled. You may think: “He/she just wants to show how much smarter they are than me.” You may sense that they’re looking down on you, judging or trying to control you. If that is your perception, you probably won’t take to heart what they say.

In all fairness, the other person may really care and want to help, but because of some emotional disconnect, you end up shutting out their words from the very beginning.

Since the people in our lives will listen to us only if they know we genuinely care, here are…

Some simple ways to show caring:

1. Listen.

Before pouring out your wealth of wisdom or advice, ask him or her how things are going in their life or situation. Find out what’s on their heart and what they are going through. To be effective, we must earn the right to speak into a person’s life.

2. Become a good listener.

Don’t just stop at listening. Become a good listener. Make eye contact, responding with caring facial expressions and then well-chosen words. Your body language reflects your concern for their well-being. In fact, your body language often speaks louder than your words. And if the two contradict each other, the other person will pick up on that too.

3. Avoid Distractions.

Avoid distractions like texting, answering the phone or doodling during your time together. Such things send a wrong message, causing the other person to shut down before you even start. In fact, turn your phone off and put it out of sight. Send a message that you’re unavailable to all but him or her. Avoid sitting next to a window that looks on a busy area, so that the two of you can stay focused on your discussion.

4. Don’t rush.

Put aside enough time to truly hear their heart and to speak what’s on yours. Being a good listener takes time. However, be truthful about how much time you have available. You can always agree to another meeting to show that you really care and are willing to see their issue through to its conclusion.

It takes time, energy and commitment to genuinely care for someone, whether it’s a child, a spouse or a friend. What matters most is that we really care about one another. And this matters most to God! “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other… (Ephesians 4:32).” Once people know you care, they will also care enough to heed what you know.…

This changes everything!

A captain navigates a huge ship with a tiny rudder. A rider masters a powerful horse with a small bit in his mouth. In the same way, the words you and I speak direct the course of our lives (James 3). Think of it!

God created everything by His words and the whole universe operates on a word system. By faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, (Hebrews 1:3, 11:3).

Amazingly, God has given us the same power over our own lives and the world in which we live. What a privilege!

Learn to master your words (making sure they agree with God’s words) and you will find yourself living a more peaceful, fulfilling and successful life. Jesus said in Luke 21:33, “Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will by no means pass away.”

How our words affect us and those around us:

  1. Our words hurt people’s feelings. We hurl them carelessly without taking thought of the consequences. We don’t recognize the powerful force for good or evil our words carry. Your words also have equal power to create a friendly, rather than hostile atmosphere.
  2. Our words shape our destiny. Today, you are the sum total of every word you first believed and then spoke about yourself. There’s no getting away from it: Our words make us our own best friend or worst enemy. Instead of trying to change people’s perception of you by changing your clothes or hairstyle, try changing your words.
  3. Our words sink ships. Stop undermining your personal relationships and career by speaking negative things about yourself. So often we knock ourselves, thinking that we’re being humble. We don’t see how this bad habit negatively impacts our destiny, the way people view us and consequently treat us.

How to live better, be liked more and succeed

  1. Weigh your words. Words are a gift from God, so carefully weigh them before you release them. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit (Proverbs 18:21). Ask yourself: “Who is Lord over the words I’m about to speak: Jesus or satan?
  2. Don’t abuse the power of speech. Satan can’t curse you, but he does everything he can to get you to curse yourself. He uses your circumstances to convince you to speak negative words about yourself, others and your future. Instead, find out what God has to say about you and speak that.
  3. Listen to the Holy Spirit. Because, with your words you choose life or death, blessing or curses; be led by the Holy Spirit. Trust His warnings and promptings before you speak. Remember, loose lips can sink your ship!

Change the way you speak and you will quickly improve everything in your life. By adding just one godly confession about yourself and your destiny every day for a week, you will experience immediate improvement. However, this change won’t go unchallenged. The devil knows the power of your words. The question is: Do you?


We love to hear from you! If this blog post has been a blessing to you, please comment!

senior citizen

Don’t let your past control your future

Whenever we bring up past hurts, continually rehearse our failures and agonize over things we should have done but didn’t, we’re tying ourselves to our past. We’re also assuring that our present and future won’t be much different. So, in reality, our past isn’t the past.

Your own worst enemy

We spend so much energy trying to get people to sympathize with us and understand why we are where we are today. Our past excuses why we can’t possibly do better. We spend countless hours telling the story of our past, trying to convince ourselves and others that life could have been different if certain things never happened.

Speaking and thinking this way makes us our own worst enemy by binding us to the past. That, in turn, hinders our present and future. Fortunately, you can get released from the curse of the past.

During my 36 years as a Christian counselor, I have seen the following steps successfully unlock the prison gate for a person stuck in the past, freeing them to enter into God’s great destiny for their life. It’s not too late to get free from the torment of the past.

Let go of yesterday

Step 1: Forgive yourself for your role in your past: wrong decisions and even thoughts and desires. We often deflect the full responsibility of our pain onto others. We can’t deal with the self-rejection and guilt that comes from admitting our part. Remember, “The truth will set you free. (John 8:32)“. Although this first step is difficult, the alternative is this: Your history will become your destiny.

Step 2: Forgive everyone who caused you pain and bad memories. It’s not enough just to forget them or not mention them again. They still hold a place in your heart, allowing Satan to keep you tied to the bad memories. You know you’ve forgiven them if hearing their name no longer triggers that uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach. Release the forgiveness God placed in you to them. Chords to the past will be broken and Satan’s assignment of tormenting you with past memories will disappear. It’s worth the effort!

Step 3: Make a conscious effort to stop bringing up your past. Scripture says that words have the power of life and death. Bringing up the past in some fashion releases a curse over your present and future. You may even be unaware that you do this. To stop it, consider asking someone close to you to point out when you bring up the past.

Step 4: Get free of shame and guilt. From time to time, we all feel guilt for things that happened in the past. Until you deal with this deep level of hurt it will undermine your faith to get free. Find someone who can pray for this deep healing. Left un-dealt with, shame and guilt will sabotage the first three steps.

I highly recommend the Stop Hurting Start Healing ministry to deal with deep inner hurt and shame. Go to BreakingFreeCC.com and start to take back your life from the enemy.

If you let it, history will repeat itself in your life. But with you and God…NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE!…

mountain path

Direction trumps intentions

We often hear people voice their good intentions to change or better their life in some way. The fact is: Good intentions alone are not good enough! For instance, if you want to lose weight, but you eat lunch every day at the International House of Pancakes, it’s just not going to happen.

The direction you choose to follow will overpower your good intentions every time. If the direction you’re traveling is an ungodly path filled with lifestyle compromises, your good intentions will go nowhere.

Alter direction, alter outcome

If you follow dead-end directions, you will end up at a dead end. No matter how many positive thoughts you have and godly confessions you make—or how well-meaning—intentions alone won’t prevent the inevitable dead end. You must change directions in order to fulfill your good intentions.

We can spend a lot of time and energy fixing the problems we run into while we’re going in the wrong direction. But, no matter how beautifully paved the dead end road is, because it isn’t a godly path, it will still lead nowhere. And fixing the occasional pothole along the way won’t change the destination.

First, you need to repent for staying on the wrong road. Then decide to change your direction and get on a road that leads to God’s true success for your life. It isn’t that difficult to discover the right road or right direction, because you have people around you who have been traveling on that road for a long time.

The Apostle Paul said it this way in Philippians 3:17, “Brethren, join in following my example, and note those who so walk, as you have us for a pattern.” In other words, others have traveled on the right road, heading in the right, godly direction, and you have them as examples to follow.

Dead ends kill time

However, the longer you wait to change directions and go the right way, the harder it will be to do it. You hear people say, “I wish I had changed direction 20 years ago. Look at all the time I wasted traveling on a dead end road.”

Thank God for all your good intentions. But direction will trump good intentions every time. Why don’t you take the time to pull over to the side of the road and ask the Holy Spirit for direction. I believe He’ll reveal that your problems aren’t hindering your success in life. It’s your chosen path.

Don’t wait. Do it now!

Why wait another minute to get on the highway to success? Do it now! Have you ever gotten lost because you made a wrong turn or took the wrong exit? You know that the longer you travel in the wrong direction, the harder and longer it takes to backtrack, find where you went wrong and get on the right road.

It’s not too late or even impossible to make a u-turn. Take the time to humbly locate where you went wrong. Next, follow the map of God’s Word and let your Holy Ghost GPS lead you off the Road of Good Intentions and on the Superhighway to Success! Good directions will always trump good intentions!…

halloween unmasked

Unmasking the real spirit of Halloween

Why Christians should have no part in Halloween

You may think of Halloween as innocent fun for the kids, but it is also a “high holy day” for modern-day witches. Does that sound innocent? The celebration of Halloween originated with the Druids, an order of priests and sorcerers in ancient Europe. The Druids worshiped the natural and supernatural worlds. According to their Celtic calendar, October 31st was the last day of the year—New Year’s Eve. On this day, they held the festival called Samhain which marked the start of winter and honored Samana, the Lord of Death.  

Druids believed that on this one night Samana allowed demons and ghosts and other spirits to wander about freely. In hopes of frightening these creatures, the Druids recited special chants and lit bonfires. 

They also made offerings of special foods to appease these evil spirits. Even more significantly, Druids disguised themselves in masks and costumes so the spirits of darkness would not recognize them and do them harm. 

You don’t have to look very hard to see many of our own Halloween traditions in these early Druid rites. Even today, satanists celebrate Halloween as one of two high holy days. It has also become one of the four greater sabbats—a Sabbath day for modern day witches and warlocks.

Because we have for so long believed Halloween to be an innocent season of fun, we have unknowingly exposed our children to a spirit of fear and to the occult. Halloween is a day that honors and glorifies Satan. 

From the beginning, people have believed that invisible spirits  were closer at Halloween than at any other time of the year. Furthermore, they believed that evil spirits could help them predict the future. 

Many of the Halloween activities practiced today were originally used as methods of divination, (Jeremiah 27:9; Galatians 5:19-21). In fact, much of our “innocent” Halloween tradition actually comes from satanically inspired rituals.

Bobbing for apples was a method of fortune-telling. The winner of the contest was advised of certain things such as who they would marry, what occupation to pursue, etc.
Broomsticks, according to legend, were used by witches to fly on to meet with the devil on Halloween.
Black cats were thought to be witches themselves as well as being a witch’s constant companion.
Jack-o-lanterns can be traced back to an Irish folk tale of a man named Jack who was not allowed into heaven because of his sins; nor was he let into hell because he had played two tricks on the devil. So Jack was condemned to walk the earth with a lighted coal in a pumpkin. 
Simply put, Halloween glorifies everything God has called an abomination. It is a day that honors satan and his forces of darkness. And as a Christian, you have no business celebrating or participating in it!

God’s Word gives us clear instructions

Abstain from all appearance of evil
( I Thessalonians 5:22); 

…neither give place to the devil (Ephesians 4:27)

Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. (Eph. 5:11)

The acts of the sinful nature are… idolatry and witchcraft…drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. (Gal. 5:19-21)

The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil’s work. (I John 3:8)

Choose this day whom you will serve. (Josh. 24:15) 

Christians should teach their children that…

There is a spiritual world filled with goodness from God and evil from Satan (Eph. 2:1-10);

Life with Christ has power over darkness (I John 4:4); and

Those who celebrate Halloween either are unaware of its roots, or are intentionally promoting a world where evil is lauded and viewed as an ultimate power.

To counter the evil influence of Halloween, we need to celebrate the reality of the heroic efforts of Christian saints over the evil in their day. Many leaders in the past—and present —have fulfilled the mandate of destroying the works of the devil through their sacrificial commitment to Christ and His Kingdom. Even more importantly, teach your children that this power belongs to them as well. Let them know that, as  Christians, we are on the winning side.

Teach them to celebrate good over evil and the triumph of God over Satan; to celebrate God’s protection, provision and purpose for our lives—rather than applauding the spirits of death and wickedness which Halloween promotes.…

boat on water

Breaking destructive life cycles

We’ve all developed bad habits that we wish we didn’t have to keep dealing with. I’m talking about bad habits that have eventually led to destructive cycles. Living with a critical spirit, an unforgiving heart, a poor self-image, gossiping, losing your temper, overeating, being lustful, etc. are all behaviors that set up destructive cycles and patterns. These cycles are detrimental to our success and especially detrimental to our witness as a Christian.

Mistakes we make

One of the great dangers of not breaking these deadly cycles is that we mistake activity for progress. We convince ourselves that staying busy for the Lord is a sign of our Christian maturity. Wrong!

Another danger is if we try to change, but repeatedly fail and slip back into the same destructive life cycle, we give up trying. Then we make excuses and allowances for them. The worse thing we can do is make excuses for wrong attitudes and fleshly appetites and continue on as though we’ve dealt with them.

Keep it simple

I propose a biblical method that God guarantees will break those destructive cycles in your life forever. It’s so simple that we excuse it because of its simplicity. In fact many of you reading this are saying to yourself, I know if it’s too simple it can’t work. You’ll stop reading and shut yourself down to God’s guaranteed method to break destructive cycles.

We humans like to intellectualize everything and make it complicated, so when we do accomplish them we feel like we have achieved something. God, on the other hand, makes things so simple. He only requires that we have faith in His methods; so when it’s all said and done, He’s the one who accomplished something in our lives—not us. He tells us in Zechariah 4:6b, “Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,’ Says the LORD of hosts.

Speak life!

Here it is…. are you ready to break the destructive and deadly cycles in your life? Change your speech patterns! We’ve all heard Proverbs 18:21many times before: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Well it’s true; you are the sum total of all the words you have spoken over your life for years and all the words others have spoken over you that you believed.

Changing what you say about yourself will eventually cause change in you and set you free from those destructive cycles. Yes, it’s really that simple! So, pick one area where a destructive cycle is manifesting and think about what you’ve been saying that’s brought you into agreement with it. If it’s self-worth, have you been saying or agreeing with words that put you down, belittle you, call you a failure or a mess up? When anything goes wrong, do you always say it’s because of you and nobody else?

Change course

After you discover what confessions have contributed to those destructive cycles do the following:

  1. Repent to God for demonically inspired words by breaking any agreement with Satan and his plans for your life.
  2. Receive God’s forgiveness and forgive yourself for saying them and repeating them over your life.
  3. Release what God says over you. Seek God’s plan for your life and replace Satan’s plans by confessing God’s word instead. Remember, your mouth speaks what’s in the abundance of your heart. Keep filling your heart and mind with God’s words, not what your temporary circumstances say.
  4. Break the curse of those destructive words you’ve been confessing over your life. Say, “I break the curse of all the words (name them) I’ve said that have caused this destructive cycle in my life.” And say, “I replace those words with this blessing (God’s word) over me. I declare that I’m blessed.”

That’s it! It’s that simple. Oh yes, you must guard your mouth and not speak those negative things again. If you do slip back, quickly repent and repeat the above process again. Within one month’s time you will be free from those destructive life’s cycles in your life. Try it, God guarantees it.


We love hearing from you! If this article has been a blessing to you, please leave a comment below.

1 17 18 19 20 21 31
WP2Social Auto Publish Powered By : XYZScripts.com