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Remove your greatest barrier to success

If you could change one thing to improve your chances of success, would you do it? I believe you would. What I’m about to share will change your life forever and position you to overcome obstacles, set-backs and past failures. But be warned: Knowledge only benefits you if it is applied. An intellectual concept by itself is a stumbling block and a deception. The knowledge God gives you for a situation is helpful only when you step out in faith on it. So plan to put this knowledge into action.

Get past the great barrier

The one great barrier that I see we all need to remove is the habit of blame shifting. What is blame shifting? It’s deflecting the attention concerning an incident away from you and towards another person or entity. For example, a husband who hits his wife may say: “I would have never hit her if she hadn’t talked to me that way.” Or an adulterous wife might say: “I would have never looked for love if he hadn’t stopped paying attention to me, going out drinking with his friends every night.”

Though it may seem insignificant, shifting the blame is a common and acceptable problem. Our story of the wrong done to us by others may be the truth, but it’s rarely the whole truth!

It’s true that our spouse spoke harshly and withdrew his or her affection. The truth be told, we responded negatively which puts some of the responsibility on us. By not accepting our part, you and I build a story that is only half true and, therefore, undermine our future success. How? Failure to accept responsibility for what happens today causes us to undergo the same experiences repeatedly.

Why do you blame shift?

  • You are afraid of being rejected more than you already are. Rejection is very painful and facing more seems unbearable.
  • You are ashamed of your bad decision and don’t want anybody to see you that way. It’s like our first parents who sinned and hid from God because they were afraid of being found out. They recognized their nakedness and put on fig leaves (excuses) to cover their shame. …And they blame shifted. Adam blamed God and the woman. The woman blamed the serpent.

Now, it’s true that Eve tempted Adam, but that’s not the full reason he sinned. It’s true that the devil tempted Eve, but that’s not the whole reason she disobeyed God. As long as you fail to accept your part in the problem, there is no hope of breaking the cycle of failure in your marriage, your business, your relationships, your career, etc.

Accept your part in the problem

Accept your small part in the story (I say “small” because most people only see themselves as having a tiny role in the problem…but something is better than nothing.) When you do:

  1. You confront the part of you that is in rebellion towards God’s will. If you never humble yourself, it becomes a negative seed that shows up again the next time you start over.
  2. You lessen the anger, hurt and outrage toward the other people or entities involved—because you took responsibility for your part (no matter how small).
  3. You attain the ability to forgive yourself and others for their part in your hurt. Remember, God’s presence is the most important thing in your life. (“Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is liberty (2 Cor. 3:17).” “Blessed are they that have a pure heart for they shall see the Lord (Matt. 5:8).”)
  4. You clear the way for future success. The next time you step out in faith, you won’t be plagued by past failure. This time, you’ll succeed, instead of having to start things over and over again until you give up.
  5. You shed your victim mentality and tell your story with humility. Remember, “God resists the proud but exalts the humble (James 4:6; I Peter 5:5).”

Success is in your hands

Your success is in your hands, no one else’s. Make the decision to stop blame shifting and remove the one barrier that has been hindering your success. Deal with YOU and let God deal with everyone and everything else!


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What am I living for?

Wouldn’t it be great if the only thing people didn’t like about today’s church was our radical commitment and our fanatical, on-fire loyal devotion for Jesus? And, in spite of that, they still wanted us to be their bosses, their friends and would want their sons and daughters to marry ours? Unfortunately that is definitely not the reason they don’t like the church!

Why do people resist the church?

The main reason people resist the church is that we are no different than the world. We lie, deceive and cheat just like the world. We don’t have integrity in our word and we hold unforgiveness and hatred in our hearts for one another… just like the world. At the end of the day, our approach to Christianity is about ME. It is self-centered and has little to do with others. We say things like:

“I need to get my life in order, so I better start going to church on a regular basis.”

Or “I need to go to church so I can receive answers to my prayers.”

Or “I better give so I can get blessed.”

The focus is on “ME” and making sure that please God so He will bless ME. We create a lifestyle of hypocrisy that causes the people in our sphere of influence to resist church. But, Jesus came to teach us a completely different model of what His church is to be.

The price of love

Jesus’ church is all about others and how we can love them. It’s about focusing on the other person, not you. Following Jesus means leaving everything that’s all about you and focusing on what’s all about others! He invites us to love people the way our heavenly Father loves them–by laying down our lives. “God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16).

Jesus’ model is a lot simpler (but more costly) than today’s religious model with all its conditions that are necessary to please God. The price we pay is to love our enemies and do good to those that hate and persecute us.

To love us, it cost our heavenly Father the sacrifice of His Son. It cost Jesus His life. So what will it cost you to be a disciple of Jesus and follow him? Everything!

Jesus showed us His model of church when He not only laid down His life on the cross for us but also when He took off His robe, wrapped a towel around His waist and washed His disciples’ feet. He told His disciples that if He did it, they should also do it. Matthew 10:25 says that a disciple is just like his master. In John 13:34, Jesus said we will be known as His disciples if we love others as He has loved us.

Christian or disciple?

It pleases God when you love others the way He loves you. Christianity has a bad name because it presents such a broad definition of what a true follower of Jesus really looks like. You can be a liar and still be called a Christian. You could backbite and sow seeds of discord and still be called a Christian. The world sees you on the job and hears how you talk and treat others. No wonder when you invite them to church they don’t want to come!

The first followers of Jesus weren’t even called Christians; they were called Disciples. A disciple is like his master and the definition of the word disciple offers a narrower description of what a true follower of Jesus should look like.

The question is: Which one are you? Look at all the empty seats in the church and ask yourself, “How many people want to come to church because of me? Am I a Christian or am I a disciple?…

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The Unspoken Addiction

When we think of addiction we generally think of alcohol, drugs, pornography, etc. But there is an unspoken addiction that is even more common and just as destructive as all the others. It’s the need for approval. This addiction controls many people and impacts their behavior across all relationships.

People suffering with this addiction need a positive response to everything they do (or don’t do). Without this approval fix they go into withdrawal, resulting in angry outbursts, sulking, criticism, sarcasm or even violence. This need for approval, affirmation, a pat on the back… drives a person to become a people-pleaser. He or she says “yes” to every request in order to get their drug.

Clear-cut signs to look for

As in all addictive behavior, denial is the biggest hindrance to deliverance and healing. Our addiction is often obvious to others, yet invisible to us. But here are some clear-cut signs to look for:

  1. You often do nice things for people but feel resentful afterwards when they don’t shower you with appreciation or love or affection.
  2. You are controlling with your friends, wanting to keep them for yourself; and you get jealous of anyone else who enters the equation.
  3. Your friendships are a revolving door. Friends feel pressured by your need for constant affirmation, so eventually they move on. Then you start all over with new friends, only to repeat the cycle.
  4. Like most approval addicts, you tend to feel lonely and isolated. Isolation may even be your lifestyle. You feel rejected when you don’t receive the needed approval, so you give up trying.

What can you do about it?

  1. Be honest. Admit that you need help. (Like so many of us, you may have developed this excessive need in childhood. You longed for the approval of your father, mother or someone important to you. Without it, you felt unwanted, unaccepted and incomplete, so you’ve spent the rest of your life looking for it. Yet, it always seems just out of your grasp.)
  2. Recognize that only God can meet your need–not your friends, children or spouse. Take the pressure off of people and start trusting in God to meet all of your needs.
  3. Check your motives. Why is it that you’re kind and generous to some people and cold and standoffish to others. Stop discriminating and give love, kindness and respect to everyone without expecting anything in return.
  4. Get inner healing prayer to deal with the root of your addiction. For many people, their whole life is a vicious cycle of returning to the addiction again and again. Unfortunately, each new cycle of addiction is worse than the time before. That’s why I recommend the Stop Hurting Start Healing Ministry (more on that later).
  5. You need to be sick and tired of being sick and tired. You have to really want to be made whole and not be dependent on other people to give you what only God can give.
  6. Be patient with yourself. You are changing habit patterns that you probably developed in childhood.

Change is possible!

Don’t let this unspoken addiction control the rest of your life. You can be set free by facing your problem, being diligent in your efforts and being obedient to God and His word.

If you are dealing with approval addiction, I highly recommend the Stop Hurting Start Healing ministry because of its great success in freeing people from addictions. This program gets to the root of the problem and releases you to be free. It also equips you to live well for the rest of your life. Click the link above to go to the website and learn how this powerful ministry can bring restoration and wholeness to your life.


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Racism in the Church, part 2

In my last blog, I exposed the roots of racism and placed the greatest responsibility on the church. Addressing racism and eradicating it in our nation and the world is our responsibility. I would like to offer some biblical solutions that we can take—not tomorrow—right now! 

Hate what God hates

I believe God has allowed us to live in this season of time when racism is running rampant and unchecked so we can make a difference. It’s time for believers to get their heads out of the sand and speak up on behalf of God concerning racism. We exist as the body of Christ to represent Him here on earth, true? 

Simply expressed: God hates racism just like he hates lying, divorce, murder, abortion and any other sin. There needs to be a unified church voice that says we hate what God hates, and that is racism. We won’t tolerate it in our lives or our churches. 

Making that statement should bring many believers to the altars of repentance because, unfortunately, racism does exist in the heart of some believers.

Suggested steps to take

Let me suggest some steps we, as the body of Christ, should take:

  1. Each local church should have a service for the specific purpose of repenting for the past sin of racism; sin that the Christian church embraced before and during the years of slavery. Whether we like it or not, the church has a faulty foundation of racism that has been overlooked for years. 
  2. I believe we need to commit ourselves to root out any racism that exists in our churches today by speaking against it from the pulpits. We as believers and church leaders have been quiet too long and now is the time to make our voices heard. We need to remind our flock that racism is a sin and that it will not be tolerated in our churches. We should make our altars available for repentance for those who are convicted by the Holy Spirit. 
  3. As a corporate body, we need to set time during our services to pray against the demonic activity that’s behind racism in our church and nation. Scripture says our battle isn’t fought against flesh and blood, but against demon spirits that work through people who have open doors to racism.
  4. Pastors need to teach and remind their congregants of the history of racism in this nation, and ask the Holy Spirit to impart empathy in our hearts so we would have a greater love for all people—especially for people of color. 
  5. We need to make our congregants aware of open doors in their own lives passed down in their family lineage. We may have unconsciously embraced a belief system of racism. Maybe some of us are unaware of the roots of racism in our lives.

    A good example would be: A father who raises his children with a lifestyle degrading people of color. He passes on the belief that people of color aren’t equal to white people and don’t deserve the same form of justice. As adults, when they accept Jesus as their Lord and Savior, the children carry those same demonic beliefs into their Christian life. They never denounced their generational sin of racism, nor were they even challenged to do so from the pulpit. Too often it isn’t addressed as sinful and against the heart of God. 
  6. The people of God need to stop addressing each other by color and ethnic background. This creates division and separation, rather than unity. God created only one human race and we are all children of the Most High God. Our Father knows and identifies us by our spirit—not our color. We need to see each other through spirit eyes, not carnal eyes that are influenced by Satan. 

Cleansing and outpouring

Just these few things implemented immediately and consistently will cause a cleansing and purification of the body of Christ. And there needs to be a cleansing in the church before there can be a great outpouring of His presence. 

I believe we are about to experience a “Psalm 133 Outpouring” that would touch this nation and every nation across the globe….

“Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! It is like the precious oil upon the head, running down on the beard, the beard of Aaron, Running down on the edge of his garments. It is like the dew of Hermon, descending upon the mountains of Zion; For there the LORD commanded the blessing–Life forevermore.” —Psalm 133:1-3

We are called to be examples of what heaven’s culture looks like to unbelievers. But, before we can see a true breakthrough, racism has to be confronted and dealt with first by you and me—the church of the living God!

Let’s do our part

 If you’re a Pastor reading this, let’s join our hearts together and bring an end to racism by doing our part. If you’re a member of a church, please get this article into the hands of your Pastor and encourage him to confront racism.

Remember, you can be an asset by supporting Christians that take responsibility for ending racism in America. Better yet, join us in prayer for this miracle movement of God to take place in this season. I declare: We will see the end of racism in our lifetime!…

Racism in the Church, part 1

Once again, racism has overtaken the daily headlines in America. The senseless death of another young black man at the hands of a police officer raises the question: Will there ever be a solution to the racial problems in America?

The root of the problem

We have tried to resolve this problem of systemic racism since the Civil War and the abolition of slavery. Though we have made some advancements in equality among the races and in dealing with some of its effects, we haven’t really done away with the core problem of racism which is sin. You can cut off the fruit of a tree and still find it growing back again every year. Unless you get to the root of the problem, you’ll never bring a lasting solution. 

Peaceful protests, new legislation, more black police officers, better education and job opportunities for the black community are great suggestions and are things we should institute. But it will never do away with racism until we are willing to face the root issue in our lives, and that is sin. Since it is a spiritual problem, it demands a spiritual solution which absolutely involves the church today.

Until we as the body of Christ are willing to join together and look into the mirror of God’s word, we will never see racism done away with. It needs to be eradicated first within us, as Christians, before we can affect the world in which we live.

Some of us were raised with the belief (prejudice) that one race is better than the other. Satan, the father of all lies is at work to deceive people’s hearts and minds, but unfortunately the church has not dealt with it. Racism is still found in the church, which is supposed to be the conscience and soul of this nation. And, there are even churches that are prejudiced against each other. I’ve heard it said that the most racist day of the week is Sunday! We have all-black churches, all-white churches and we have mixed churches; yet, even in mixed churches, there can be an undercurrent of prejudice. 

One race: human

There is only one human race, just one. And until we bring people to a saving knowledge of Jesus, racism will always exist. Only the love of the Father through Jesus and the power of the Holy Spirit can help us walk in unconditional love toward one another; where we don’t see color—only God’s gift of life in each other. 

As long as we remain carnal Christians, we will never resolve the racial problem in this world. People are calling for justice, but true justice is something that originates from the heart of God; it’s His idea, not man’s. But, nothing from God is released on this earth unless we surrender all of our heart to Him and allow Him to live through us. 

Repentance in the church

The bottom line is that the church must address this issue with all sincerity and truthfulness by first repenting for its own long-standing racist attitudes. Most of the racism in the past—supporting slavery and killing innocent black people—was supported and even encouraged by the church! Search our history.

We have hidden it under the cover of religious piety, but it’s like filthy rags before the Lord. 

Denominations have black clergy and Hispanic clergy and then just clergy. Too few people of color are found in leadership. In some churches, minorities have a secondary role even if they are more qualified than others. 

We tolerate racist remarks and behavior in our churches, yet hesitate to bring godly correction for fear of losing our caucasian constituents. We don’t support those who are willing to address issues of racial equality and we vote for parties with racist agendas.

It’s time for us as Christian leaders to confront these issues with our own congregations and lead them into the truth about God’s justice. 

Denominations need to come together, putting away our swords and submitting to God’s mandate to “let our light shine before men that they may see our good works.” We should pray together for racial injustice to cease and for the roots of racism to be completely destroyed. 

One enemy: satan

Satan is our enemy, and sin is the vehicle he uses. We are God’s weapon against racism. Therefore, the church needs to teach its people the root causes of racial injustice and the history of racism in our nation. 

The church needs to address these issues with zeal and, once and for all, commit to show the fruits of righteousness in our cities. We need to rally together black, white, Hispanic—all men as one in the name of Jesus!…

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Quiet the storm within

If we never receive the healing we need, the past can greatly affect our present and future course. Neglecting and ignoring these past hurts and bad memories creates what I call “hot buttons”. When these buttons are pushed, devastating storms get stirred up and then released!

These hurts and bad memories are often caused by deep rejections and disappointments we have suffered. They fester deep inside us and become like volcanoes, waiting to erupt under the right conditions. These eruptions are devastating to us and to the people around us.

Yet, we are often unaware of the causes of our angry outbursts, fits of rage, hurtful words, sarcasms and sometimes even our violent reactions. It seems out of character so we excuse it away by saying things like: “I’m just having a bad day.” “I wasn’t feeling well at that moment.” “I acted out of character.”

Sometimes we justify inappropriate behavior because we feel unfairly treated. But if we continue to make excuses without dealing with the root to the problem, we just keep the buttons for others to push.

And if the buttons remain, they will destroy our reputations, careers, marriages, family relationships, our walk with God and our personal testimony of God’s greatness!

Inappropriate and violent behavior are always the result of harboring feelings of anger, hatred and rage. They’re sure signs of a storm brewing inside of you that’s ready to be released. The storm is just waiting for someone to push the right “hot button” so it can erupt.

Here is some advice on how you can quiet those storms, assuring yourself and others that you will no longer be a volcano ready to erupt:

  1. Recognize that those feelings of anger, rage, and hatred are a sign of a deeper personal problem. Unfortunately it’s easier to look outside yourself than to look inside. It takes courage to be transparent because it makes us feel vulnerable. But, when we can begin to look at ourselves we will be on our way to getting free and to start quieting the storm inside. There is an absolute connection between what we feel and express when our button is pushed and what has happened in our past.

Start looking inside when the anger begins — not when it has already evolved into rage and is controlling you instead of you controlling it. By looking inside you’ll understand where these storms get their strength. If you get to the root you can get to the fruit.

  1. Stop blame-shifting, because that places the responsibility for your feelings of anger and negative reactions on the person or things that pushed your hot button. Instead, look inside immediately and question why you feel this way. Why did their words cause you such hurt or torment?

I realize this isn’t our natural reaction to feeling hurt and pain, but the Holy Spirit is living in us and He will strengthen us and remind us to think before we talk. We can and must develop the habit of waiting a moment before responding irrationally. That leads me to my next point.

  1. Know that God loves you and wants you free from those storms inside. Many times He actually allows them to erupt in you. Why? Not to condemn you and make you feel bad. No! He wants to deliver the enemy of your soul so you can destroy it before it destroys you. The awareness of God’s love (not condemnation) is a critical step in quieting the storms in your life. God loves you unconditionally with no strings attached. And He is ever-present to help you follow His plans for success.
  1. Finally, forgive yourself and ask others to forgive you for those storms. There is no victory without the cross, meaning you must recognize and truly repent of your sin and acknowledge the price Jesus paid for your forgiveness. Forgiveness disarms our true enemy. Remember we are not fighting against flesh and blood but a spiritual enemy who wants to destroy you and those around you.

Let’s no longer be time bombs ready to explode because our hot buttons were pushed. Jesus quiets the storms of our hearts by healing us of our past hurts and bad memories. So, ask Him right now to come into those places in your heart (memories, feelings) that still hurt. Allow Him to quiet the storms in your life!


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