Discover the Cure for Loneliness
You don’t have to be single to be lonely. I know quite a few married folk who are extremely lonely. God created each of us for an intimate, personal relationship with Himself first and then with one another. When that doesn’t occur, it brings emptiness inside our spirit, producing feelings of loneliness.
When we spiritually and emotionally connect to our Creator and other humans, we feel fulfilled and whole and are strengthened to handle our problems with greater success. By and large, lonely people don’t handle stress well and are more prone to break down emotionally. They are also more susceptible to depression, suicidal thoughts and sickness. But, married or single, loneliness doesn’t have to be your plight.
Here are some things to help cure loneliness:
- Stop looking for another person make you happy and fulfilled. That’s too much pressure for any one person to bear. Look to God. He alone gives true fulfillment, joy and happiness. He will use other people, but He is the source of life and the antidote for loneliness. Many married couples suffer severe loneliness because they look to each other for what only God can supply!
- Recognize that you are valuable all by yourself. Too many singles look for affirmation through anyone who’s available. In their quest for acceptance and personal value, they make poor choices in friends and soul mates. Two wounded, unfulfilled individuals don’t make a whole relationship. Quite the contrary!
God wants you to connect with other people. However, you will never conquer feelings of loneliness until you first connect with your creator God and recognize how valuable you are as an individual in Him.
Instead, find your identity in Jesus Christ. Know that when He made you He didn’t make junk. Connect with His plans for you by giving Him access to your heart. That connection comes from reading His word daily and believing what He says about you. For instance, Ephesians 3:20 says: “Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us.” The power that works in us is faith in God’s word. I recommend you search for scriptures that tell you who you are in Christ and all you can accomplish in Him. Philippians 4:19 says: “I can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens me”.
- Take the pressure off those you’re relying on to fill your void. Release them right now and place your eyes, trust and hope in God.
- Take inventory and count your blessings. Too often, we focus on what we don’t have, instead of what we do have. Taking inventory of all God has given you will make you realize how much He loves you.
- Finally, take dominion over your thought life. Loneliness is produced by a series of thoughts about your past, present and future. Don’t let the devil play with your mind. As a man thinks in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7). Decide today to make Jesus Lord over your thoughts.
Every time feelings of loneliness overtake you, stop and realize that the problem is in your mind. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you the thoughts that are plaguing you. Then, with His help, tear them down and replace them with God’s thoughts (His word).
God wants you to connect with other people. However, you will never conquer feelings of loneliness until you first connect with your creator God and recognize how valuable you are as an individual in Him.
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How true this post is Pastor Gaspar! I have had to learn that over the past 18 months. I never talked to my husband Tom after July 16 2014 when he had his cardiac arrest from the sleep apnea. Then he finally went home to be with the Lord April 30, 2015. I spent many many lonely sad hours till God finally ministered this truth to me. He is still working of course but my pastor, Forrest Devore at Grace Baptist temple North Ft Myers and my church family there prayed and saw everything through to the end and are still with me. And I started attending Word of Life again on a regular basis on Fri nights shortly after his illness. Then I joined Pastor Don’s life group in early 2015. They have been a true blessing and source of strength as the whole Word of Life church community! I have come to love you guys so much. I have no family here but I am so blessed with 2 wonderful church families! God has truly blessed me and is keeping me because he taught me to do just what you suggest in your post. I just want to testify it works! I still get lonely but the intense pain has past. I am able to move on slowly.I am willing to be a testimony and a light to the truth in this post if it would glorify God! Have an amazing blessed holiday. I will be with family in Texas on Christmas but look forward to ringing in a blessed New Year in the Lord with you and my WOL family! God Bless you and Michelle!
Love,
Patricia Gugliemelli
And I can’t forget Pastor Gill Lake and Pastor Tom Dimino and my Word of Life Family in Center Moriches, NY . They are a real loving product of your hard work and prayers Pastors Gaspar and Pastor Michelle. They have been a huge support even though I have only been there once since Tom died and once when he was ill but still alive. Pastor Gill’s texts have been a huge source of support! Word of Life is alive and well in Eastern Suffolk County! You planted a really faithful work there too! I have 3 wonderful church familes! Praise the Lord!
Thank you for this blessed message. Right now I’m going through a trying time with terrible flashbacks from a very bad childhood. As these strongholds are manifesting I’m feeling the feelings I did as a child, but the Holy Spirit is giving me the strength I need to combat all this because the past doesn’t dictate my future or my present. However, moments of loneliness come up because I was very lonely then. I tell myself everyday what is in me is stronger than what is in the world. Again thank you for the encouragement. Now if the boughts of nausea will subside, I’ll be peachy keen. LOL Blessings to you and Michelle.