Setting goals for the season ahead

A while back, I wrote a blog Understanding God’s plan for you and another called Kick off a successful partnership. Both talk about getting a vision and setting goals for a healthy marriage. So I ask: Have you started working on couple’s goals for this year? We’re already into May, but I always feel like God has our attention at the beginning of a new year, getting us prepared for the season ahead. 2023 presents a fresh opportunity to let go of some things and add others.

How we got started

Gaspar and I have been setting annual marriage goals for many years now. After our first year in ministry, we decided to set goals for the church. We made a five-year plan for every ministry, and God supernaturally accomplished it all—in two years instead of five. That’s what sold us on casting a vision, and we began applying the same principles to our personal lives.

Because goal-setting is a yearly event we both look forward to, it’s already on our calendars in December. We each take time in the weeks leading up to our planning date to consider some personal goals we want to put into our schedule.

Decisions, decisions

Marriage consists of so many decisions: Where do we invest our time? What needs immediate attention? Where should we spend our money? Once the two of you have set goals, decision-making becomes so much easier and keeps you both on the same page. Simply ask yourself, “Will this choice further our goals or hinder them?” 

Once you have set goals, decision-making becomes much easier and it keeps you on the same page.

Before you even begin setting goals, take some time to talk about how you’d like the rest of the year to go. Is there a particular area you’d like to focus on? Discuss: 

• how things went over the past year
• what worked well, what didn’t
• were there any problem areas?

We use our list of goals from the previous year to see what we’ve accomplished and what went by the wayside.

Set a time that’s good for both of you. If this is the first time you’re setting goals together, it may take more than one session. Get a notebook/paper, a calendar and decide what areas for which you want to set goals. Some of our top areas are: spiritual/ personal relationship with God, physical goals, classes we’re taking. We set these goals individually, and then we share them with each other. 

Setting marriage goals

Marriage is always the first area we discuss. We communicate a lot in this area, since its ministry we share. So basically we just set goals for things we want to do and accomplish. Some of the goals we’ve set over the years were: 

• Read a marriage book together. 
• Schedule a weekly date night. 
• Have at least a 15-minute daily debrief sharing how our day went. 
• Work on a project together. 
• Read a couple’s devotional each morning. 
• Schedule a get-away.

Setting family goals

Our goal-setting in this area of family is a lot different now that we’re empty-nesters. It’s more about planning for family get-togethers, outings, birthdays, holidays. When the children were younger we set goals for family vacations, having a weekly fun night. Goals included teaching our teenagers various skills like how to change a tire, write a check, prepare a meal, etc.

Make His will for your life and marriage your number one goal.

Well, I think you’ve got the idea. We may all have different couple goals, but the important thing is to have some. They give you a track to run on. And, if you stick with it, you’ll be thrilled with the results of having a check-up every month or two. Any little accomplishment you make is progress.

One other thing. After you set your goals, be sure to bring them before the Lord and commit this year to Him. Be open throughout the year in case God wants to change your plans. Make His will for your life and marriage your number one goal.

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