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When forgiving is hard…

Recently I asked someone why they wouldn’t forgive a particular person.  The offending party had repented and asked for forgiveness, but still this person refused to forgive. When I asked why, the reply was: “Because I could tell they weren’t sincere. They really aren’t sorry, so they don’t deserve to be forgiven.”

Forgiving is hard, but so is reaping the results of not forgiving.

Is that what Jesus says?  Hardly.  “If you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. (Matt. 6:15)” Only those who truly recognize their own sin and the price Jesus paid for them to be forgiven can forgive those who sinned against them. (At least we hope so.)  Forgiving is hard, but so is reaping the results of not forgiving.

You received grace to give grace

Every one of us who has experienced God’s forgiveness is called to extend His love and forgiveness  to others.  He gives us grace to show grace to others.  He pours His love in us to love like He does. Often people say they’ve forgiven when they really haven’t.  They’ll say over and over: “Yes, I’ve forgiven them.” And then they tack on: “I just don’t want to have anything to do with them.” If they were really honest, they would admit that secretly they’d like to see that person pay a price for what they did.

Every one of us who has experienced God’s forgiveness is called to extend His love and forgiveness  to others.  He gives us grace to show grace to others.

Thankfully, that’s not how God forgives us.  When He forgives us, He wipes the slate clean and treats us like we never committed the act.  He doesn’t keep a record of it to bring up at some future time. What’s more, Jesus doesn’t just forgive—He restores what was lost.

Yeah, but how?

When we forgive others as Jesus commands us to, we receive healing. He takes away the pain of the offense.  To have the forgiveness worked in and through us, we must do the following:

1.  Pray for God to bless the one who hurt you, however He sees fit.

2.  Willingly choose to be a channel of God’s love flowing from you to them.

3.  Desire to see that person healed, restored and serving again in the call God has on their life.

In John 21:15-17, Jesus gives us His example of true forgiveness. Jesus’ dear friend and disciple Peter had to face the fact that he denied Christ—not once, but 3 times. Now, after His resurrection, Jesus confronts Peter:

“Simon son of John, do you love Me more than these?”

“Yes, Lord,” he said, “you know that I love you.”

Jesus said, “Feed my lambs.”

Again Jesus said, “Simon son of John, do you love Me?”

He answered, “Yes, Lord, you know that I love you.”

Jesus said, “Take care of my sheep.”

The third time He said to him, “Simon son of John, do you love Me?”

Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him a third time, “Do you love Me?”

He said, “Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you.

Jesus said, “Feed my sheep.”

Unlimited pardon

Interesting, isn’t it, that Peter denies Jesus 3 times, then Jesus  gives Peter 3 chances to reaffirm his love for Him.  Jesus is making a point here. No matter how many times we fall and deny Him, He’s there to pick us up, forgive and restore us.

Neither His forgiveness nor our service to Him depends on us. Rather, it has everything to do with what Jesus has done for us. He’s a God of restoration! And His instruction to us is the same as that He gave to Peter: “Follow Me.”  As followers of Christ, we’re to keep following Him and modeling His behavior—especially in forgiving others. Yes, forgive, even though it is hard and comes with a cost.

Share your Heart: What would it cost you to follow Jesus’ example and forgive someone who is hard to forgive?

2 Responses to “When forgiving is hard…

  • Ron Fuentes
    9 years ago

    I have made plenty of mistakes in my life. So many and costly ones. Ive set myself back in my future plans by years. But God, had His way of showing me that my set backs were actually a set up for even greater things. Our Father used you Pastor Anastasi to open my eyes to that fact.
    Today I am married to the most amazing woman of God and my relationship has been restored with my children. Something that I could have only seen in my dreams.
    I realize that the enemy has tried to destroy my life due to the fact that there is a great purpose for me. Last week my daughter, Kaila, gave her life to the Lord and has now influenced her Mother to come to church.
    Just yesterday my wife and I planted a seed with the chiropractor that worked on me. Dr Merlo was toched my God’s love amd cried.
    Monya and I are on a mission to take back all that the enemy has stolen from us and our brothers and sisters in Christ. All of this is possible today due to YOUR obedience to our Father.
    For that I thank you, Pastor Anastasi.
    I love you and your family with all of my heart.

    • Thanks, Ron, for responding to our blog. It is a great testimony that should be continually shared. Hope to see you in church soon.
      Love,
      Pastor Gaspar and Michele

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